I would like to leave my hubby, its not that he beats me or anything like that its just not good at home?

Would love to know your age when y'all got married.. Sounds like most your ranting is coming from the ual department. Let me ask you this if he was the next John Holmes in bed would you be happy? It does sound like at least y'all are talking even if it is arguing that is a plus. With this in mind y'all could possibly benefit from a marriage counselor learn how to discuss issues without fighting about them. The part just sounds to me like your bored. If y'all can find a way to overcome the other issues maybe look into finding ways to make the bedroom more exciting. Maybe an alternate lifestyle if y'all both agree if y'all can't find ual satisfaction with just each other. As hard as swinging a few days away might be to just spend time with each other might be a step in the right direction.